5 Things I Wish Every Family Knew

You don't have to have all the answers.

No one knows exactly what to do the first time they walk this road. Give yourself permission to ask questions and accept help.

Talking about death won't make it happen sooner.

These conversations don't take away hope. They often bring peace and make it easier to honor your loved one's wishes.

Presence matters more than perfection.

You don't need the perfect words. Sitting quietly, holding a hand, sharing a memory, or simply being there is often enough.

Take care of the caregiver, too.

Caregivers are so focused on everyone else that they often forget themselves. Rest, nourishment, and asking for help aren't selfish, they're essential. We cannot pour from an empty cup.

There can still be moments of joy.

Even in the midst of grief, families laugh. They tell stories, celebrate birthdays, watch old movies, and share favorite meals. Joy doesn't erase grief, and grief doesn't erase joy. You can hold one in each hand. This time of life can have pockets of beauty.